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How to Potty Train Your Baby

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If you’re a first-time mom wondering how to potty train your baby, you may be feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes the most challenging part is figuring out when your child is ready. Although each child’s development is different, most babies are ready to start potty training when they are between 20 and 30 months old. You can look for some behavioral and physical signs to figure out when your child is ready.

Physical readiness

Your child should be able to walk and run easily, with minimal falling. He should also have enough fine motor skills to be able to do things like remove clothing and tear a piece of toilet paper from the roll.

His bladder and bowel muscles also need to be developed enough that he can control them. Signs that he can control these muscles include staying dry for at least two hours, and well-formed bowel movements that happen at predictable times. Developmentally, babies generally do not have control over their bowel and bladder muscles before 18 months of age.

Behavioral readiness

Your child should show an interest in potty training. She’ll be curious about other people’s toilet habits and may express a desire to start wearing “big girl” underwear. She should understand the concept of using the toilet and may begin to be able to identify the feeling of “needing to go”. She should be able to speak well enough to communicate with you when she needs to use the toilet. Encourage conversation about these topics, and talk positively about the benefits of potty training.

Ideal times to start training

Start potty training when your home is a stable environment. Avoid beginning in the middle of big changes, like a divorce or a move. Pick a time when your child is going through a cooperative phase. Realize that upheavals in your routine can cause your child to regress, so don’t be concerned if she has accidents in response to changes in her environment.

Potty training first steps

Make potty training fun and exciting! Take your child potty shopping with you and let him help select the potty he’ll be using. Let him pick out some “big kid” underwear, too.

Start potty training in sessions of a few hours each. In the morning put your child in his “big kid” underwear. Let him eat and play normally, but put him on the potty every 15 minutes. Praise him when he’s successful, but don’t shame him if he has an accident. At this stage, you’ll need to wipe him after a bowel movement. After a couple of hours put him back in a diaper or pull-up. Repeat this process in the afternoon. (Some experts recommend going directly from fulltime diapers to full-time underwear, skipping the potty training sessions. It’s fine to try this if you prefer it.)

Incorporate play into potty training. If your child has a favorite stuffed animal, let the animal use the potty, too. Read some books about potty training with your child. Diapers Are Not Forever, by Elizabeth Verdick and Everyone Poops, by Taro Gomi are both excellent book choices.

If your child is receptive to these potty training sessions, keep doing them. After several days, try an all-day session instead of one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Your child should begin to recognize the urge to urinate or defecate and will start to tell you when he needs to go.

If your child resists potty training, it’s better to stop and try again in a month. Toilet training should not feel like a battle of wills. If it does, your child isn’t ready. Pushing to get him toilet trained before he’s ready can actually make the process take longer.

Intermediate potty training

It can take a month or so to have consistent dryness during the day. You can expect nighttime dryness to take longer. If your child wets the bed at night, it’s not a cause for concern at this age. Try limiting liquids in the hour before bedtime.

As your child gets good at using her potty, you can start teaching her to wipe herself. She’ll be able to master wiping urine fairly quickly, but she’ll likely continue to need help after a bowel movement until age 4 or 5. When you introduce wiping, be sure to introduce hand washing at the same time. Provide a safe stepping stool so she can reach the sink, and demonstrate proper washing technique with soap and water.

Eventually, she’ll be ready to use the regular toilet instead of her potty. You may need to provide a stool or a small bench, which will help her climb up onto the toilet and give her something to put her feet on while she’s sitting.

Other things to keep in mind

Make sure your child’s pants are easy to pull down. A stubborn snap or a button that just won’t open is an accident waiting to happen.

Carry a spare set of your child’s pants and underwear in your car even after he’s mastered potty training around the house. When he’s out of his home environment, accidents aren’t uncommon, especially at first.

Make sure your child gets regular checkups to assess developmental milestones. Ask your pediatrician about any concerns you’re having with toilet training.

Celebrate! Potty training is a big deal, and it’s important to acknowledge your child’s steps toward this important milestone.

1 Comment

  1. Emily

    Potty training is not a good idea. Following the child’s lead will yield better results in the long term.

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